Posted by Sammy
December 31, 2012
I’ve been thinking about where to go next with my writing. 3 Weeks ago I was on the plane home. 2 Weeks ago I posted about my new reality. The things that are being born out of Stephanie’s legacy are moving forward, but were in a bit of limbo for a day or so. Its that time between Christmas and New Years when people are travelling and spending those last few days of break and vacation with family and friends. Ive done many heartfelt posts but even I need a break from pouring that much emotion to a page And then it hit me: Les Miserables. Not the whole musical but this spot in the middle. Its no secret that it’s a highly emotional show but if you’ve ever seen it live at about 45 minutes in right when youre on the emotional edge, THEY show up. The Thenardier’s and they bring the house down. Ive seen Master of the House get a standing ovation in the middle of the show. People go nuts. I think its time for the comic relief. Its time to not just connect emotionally (though trust me, were gonna do that another day some more…good juju) but to smile and laugh at our memories and as we move forward to do that with new chapters of our life. So here we go:
December 2004:
It was the last “normal” Christmas we would know. I was in my first year at EC which brought its challenges as does the first year at any program. I was ready for break. I was actually a huge fan of snow days at the time. Don’t care for them so much now. Either I love my job more (most likely) or Im old (less likely but still a possibility). Regardless I was ready for break. The news was calling for a winter storm but I kind of ignored it. They didn’t have their Blizzard intro graphics going, they weren’t “live from the salt pile” as a friend of mine watches for, and Jim Cantore from the weather channel wasn’t outside in his blue windbreaker standing in the worst of the storm reporting yet. This storm lacked legitimacy. It was false. And yes, those three things are what I use to decide if a storm is worth paying attention to. Don’t judge me.
“Nooooo ILL tell YOU when to go buy the ingredients for French Toast!!!”
So a few days before break I headed out to school. The day began normal enough. Classes finishing up, prepping for break. And in the morning, as the light came up, snowflakes began falling. One of my early classes was the 7th grade band.
Ill pause here: I really am old. 7th grade band in 2004 was a favorite class of mine. They kids just seemed so nice. Those nice kids are now in their early 20’s and some have become good friends of mine. I’m gonna take a break and go wallow in my oldness…..
“The kids find it maddening to try to get photos of me during band events. One of them lucked out.”
Just kidding!
One of them, nice, tiny little trumpet player jumps up on a chair and proclaims that the time has come to do the snow dance. You get to a point in the school year that you just roll with it. This was that point. Snow dance away said I. I still blame here for every bit of weather we got after that. Don’t worry. She knows its all her fault.
Moving on.
Sure enough the snow began after bit to pick up. By 6th grade band it was coming down heavily and the announcement came to send the students back to home room…we would be dismissing early. I drove home that day with the snow coming down. Roads were getting slick. I didn’t much care. I knew we’d have a snow day coming.
The next morning the snow was still coming down and we were off school. Now if you knew Steph well or us as a couple, we liked making plans for things like work and such but not so much things like, oh say Christmas shopping. So after lunch we decided to take our snow day time and head to the mall at Fairfield Commons for shopping. It was a 20 minute drive from our apartment. Seemed like a good idea. We got some dinner at Don Pablos and headed in to shop. Fast forward a few hours: im in Bath and Body Works buying some gifts and the girl behind the counter starts talking and our conversation goes like this:
Her: “wow so like youre probably in a hurry.”
Me: “Um, not really…why?”
Her: “Well they are like sending us home early…parts of 675 are shut down.”
Me: “What??? OK Now I am in a hurry”
“Lucky for us I knew the best route to avoid Bumble interference.”
See this was 2004. There weren’t smart phones in every pocket. I was completely unaware that our snow day weather had gone blizzard on us. I frantically found Steph and we bolted for the car. The 20 minute drive took an hour and a half of fishtailing down the interstate which was now covered with 8 inches of snow. Unplowed. Joy.
Needless to say we had no school. The next day we awoke to 16 inches of snow and two snowed in cars. After coffee and playing in the snow…there is photo evidence of this somewhere…we realized we needed to get the cars out somehow. Solution? We would walk to the Big Lots right outside our apartment complex and get shovels since we owned none. Triumphantly we returned with our shovels. Whch had wooden shafts on them. They lasted all of 5 or 6 shovel fulls before breaking. It would be at least a day before we finally got out. I was finishing my Christmas shopping on Christmas Eve on my way to the evening service. Go figure.
The snow always seemed out to mess with us. A year later we’d be trying frantically to fly out of Dayton with a snow storm coming down on us the night before. A year and a few months after that we’d be in a meeting in Blue Ash and snow would hit, causing the 40 minute drive home to become a 4 hour battle of the backroads as every business in Cincinnati dismissed employees in a panic. In 2008 we’d both be on snow days and run out of things to do as an ice storm kept Middletown closed and knocked out power around EC. But dark winter nights always gave way to the sunny days of summer. And summer always brought time at the pool, bike rides, grilling out and trips to the beach with my family. Those things will happen this year. They will be strange. But goofy happy memories like the ones I decided to write down tonight will surface and bring smiles. The wheels are turning on big things. Here is the link again to the donation site for Stephanie’s memorial grant:
This is fully tax-deductable and a way to fight back. Its one of many opportunities. Lets send 2012 packing by doubling what is already in the fund. I stand by what I said on December 5 and ask all of you that read this to consider committing to this idea:
“Live. Give. Love. Leave a legacy. Impact the world.”
Remember we can be the ones to light up the darkness just like Stephanie always did. What will you do?
Peace
Sammy
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