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  • CHRISTMAS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Posted by Sammy

    9pm from HOME

    Thats right...home! As you all know by now, Christmas in Houston has been averted. Now were playing the wait and see game. As in wait in see if any tumors grow and then try to kill them. Hopefuly the tumors no-show and forfiet the match. I dont like that game. That game fails. Im campaigning to play the "hey she doesnt have any cancer anymore forever and ever and here go live a normal life, such as it is" game. When do I get to play that one? This is kind of like waiting in really tall grass and there may or may not be a rabid, man-eating lion in the grass somewhere waiting to kill you, then again there may not, but you have no choice but to trollop through said grass wearing shorts made of raw meat. Booo.

    Ive been a total post-slacker the last few months. Work has been crazy...in a good way but still busy. School is going really well. Im proud of the kids and thankful for the support we're getting. Just been reeeeaally busy but thats a good thing. So had less time to post, but Ill try to be better on that.

    Very happy we'll be spending Christmas at home. I love Texas but I like Christmas here. Mostly becuase thats how i grew up with it. Turning the A/C on while we open presents is just wierd.

    This has been a very rollercoaster year overall. Thinking we are done then having the nodule show up in the summer. Good surgery (such as it is) and then finding out the chemo was just keeping it in check, etc, etc. At the same time like I said above school has been great. Im enjoying it more than I ever have. And the experience of riding the Livestrong Challenge was amazing. So much in fact....Im doing it again! http://philly2010.livestrong.org/sammyminge  if you'd like to end the year with a Christmas donation to the Lance Armstrong Foundation and go into 2010 helping fight back against cancer! My goal is to hit $3,000 at least but what Id really like to shoot for is $10,000 and head to Ride for the Roses in Austin this fall. Ill need lots of help to do it. Lets show cancer we've had enough this year.

    If definitly ready for Christmas...I kind of am all year. Its my favorite time of year and its been good so far. Ill be back later this week with more but wanting to get back in the posting swing of things for now. In the meantime, take care, Merry Christmas, and LiveSTRONG!

     

    Sammy

     

  • Stats and the season

    Posted by Stephanie 9:30pm from the house

    Two million dollars in treatment costs, 27 rounds of chemotherapy—more than half of them high-dose and done as an inpatient, a total of 16 weeks in the hospital, more than 70 trips back and forth to Houston, six apartments with a total of 23 months of renting, four major surgeries, and nearly 100,000 in out-of-pocket costs which include travel, apartment rent, hotel, rental car and parking charges.

    Pretty mind-blowing statistics, eh?. Those are some of the numbers I came up with just off the top of my head from my four years battling cancer. Obviously my journey can’t be boiled down to a paragraph of stats, but when I actually write those things down and look at them, they have quite an impact.

    I’ve been really emotional lately. Ever since getting the path report back and learning the not-so-great news about the completely alive and active lung nodule, I’ve been having quite a few full-blown sob fests. Seems like I’ll be set off by the simplest things. Put up the Christmas tree—I envision this being my last Christmas and start crying; pay the bills—I worry about leaving behind a bunch of debt for Sammy and the tears start flowing…….you get the idea. I’ve been emotional before (hello, you can’t go through this and not be), but never have I fretted so much about my own mortality. When we started this four years ago the thought of my dying was brief and fleeting, never a concern until now. It’s just that the longer we go through this, and the more often we get bad news, well, it just has started to really get to me. Sometimes the reality of the situation is just too much to bear—like a huge weight I’m forced to carry all the time. I know that the odds and statistics are against me…….but, I also know that I am not a statistic, and that I’ve made it this far successfully. There’s no reason to think that I won’t get through the next course of treatment and be done for good. And I do believe that—sometimes I just have to remind myself of it in order to stay sane.

    Okay, well, let’s get onto happier things. I love this time of year. Maybe not the bitter cold, but everything else about the holiday season—the lights, the decorations, the food, the atmosphere, and focusing on what’s really important, it’s all great. Sammy and I put the Christmas tree up a couple of days after Thanksgiving, and dragged out all the other decorations for the rest of the house. Stockings hanging on the fireplace mantle, ceramic houses out on tables, icicle lights outside—we’ve got it all. Sammy’s like a little kid around Christmastime. His enthusiasm for the season is contagious!

    One part of the season that I haven’t had much to do with—shopping. Tomorrow is just four weeks since surgery (man, it feels waaay longer than that), and while I’m recovering nicely, it’s still very difficult for me to spend any length of time out. I’ve reduced the amount of pain medication I’m taking by a huge amount—at this point, I’m down to just half a pain pill a couple of times a day. But, no matter whether I was still taking mega-doses every four hours, or just enough to take the edge off, it’s caused me massive amounts of nausea and vomiting. I don’t really understand why that particular side effect didn’t really rear it’s ugly head until around the time I came home from Houston (buildup of it in my system, maybe?), but it’s been an almost daily occurrence ever since. I’ve tried getting by on just Tylenol, but especially if I have to go anywhere, that’s not enough to cut it. So, I’m stuck in this catch 22—I either take the pain meds and feel comfortable, but vomit at least once a day and spend the rest of it nauseous or knocked out from anti-nausea drugs, OR, I don’t take pain meds, and therefore have no nausea, but then I hurt so much I can’t move from the couch. I’m thinking I might do a significant amount of my shopping online for the first time ever. Of course, in order to do that, I have to know what it is I’m looking for—I’m notorious for wandering the store aimlessly until I see something that jumps out at me, and I can’t really do that this year. We’ll see how it goes!

    Time for a cup of hot tea and some fleece blankets. Today was extremely cold and very windy. It’s flurrying this evening, and the weatherman was calling for slick roads, but so far it’s not too bad. Sammy’s at a dress rehearsal at church for the Christmas program this weekend, so I hope he makes it home safely. Poor guy started feeling sick yesterday afternoon, then spent yesterday evening on a field trip at the Festival of Lights at the Cincinnati Zoo with his band, where it was cold and rainy. I get to play nurse for a few days till he’s feeling better. :) Goodnight all.

    --Steph

  • "D" Day

    Posted by Stephanie 11:00pm from the house

    Four years. Four years ago today I was officially diagnosed. Never did I envision that four years later I would still be actively battling cancer. I’ve been compiling a list of some staggering statistics from my time on treatment. My plan tonight was to compose a loooong post with all those figures and my thoughts on them, but I’ve been sleeping most of the evening and am just too tired to finish it tonight. I’ve spent several hours out and about the last few days, and while it’s good for my recovery to be more active, it wears me out and causes a great deal of pain. So, I’m gonna go back to sleep, and finish this post tomorrow.

    Four years. Oof. Happy Diagnosis Day to us.

    --Steph

  • The good, the bad, and the overstuffed

    **This post was written last night, but Xanga was down so it couldn't get posted until this morning

    Posted by Stephanie 9:30pm from the house

    Happy Thanksgiving!! I hope by this time tonight everyone has had their fill (and then some) of great food and the chance to spend time with family and friends. Sammy and I had a great meal at my parents’ house, then headed over to his folks’ place to repeat the process. I’m so thankful that I was able to be home for Thanksgiving, since last year we were stuck in Texas. There’s even a chance of snow flurries tonight! It’s time to get into the holidays full swing, and I’m glad surgery is behind me so that I can enjoy it.

    The rest of my time in Houston was fairly uneventful. By the time last weekend rolled around, I was desperate to get out of the apartment for a little while, so mom and I ventured out Saturday to see New Moon, the second movie in the Twilight series. I was glad to get out and see it opening weekend (and eat some popcorn!), but boy, was I tired when we got home. Just a couple of hours out was enough to do me in for the rest of that day and the next, even if most of that time was spent sitting in a movie theater. Anyway, mom spent the rest of the weekend cleaning the apartment and packing things up to fly home. I felt awful that I couldn’t help, but at that point it was still a chore just to get out of the recliner chair and make my way to the bathroom and back, so mopping floors or doing laundry was certainly out of the question.

    We flew home Monday evening. Once we actually got on the plane, all was fine, but a lengthy delay at the airport in Houston almost caused us to miss our connecting flight. I was terrified we were going to be stuck in the Atlanta airport overnight. That would’ve been bad enough by itself, but I only had enough pain medication with me to get home—certainly not enough to last through the night and into the next day. Luckily, we made the flight and arrived back in Ohio late late late that night. I’ve spent the last couple of days recovering from my travels home and continuing to heal. I’m starting to be able to move around a little easier and take less pain medication, so I’m right on track for being two weeks out from surgery. I’m also still doing my breathing exercises, and special arm/shoulder stretches to make sure I retain full mobility. It’s so nice to have Sammy home right now to help me, and I know he’s glad to be on break.

    The only really exciting news to share comes from the pathology report, which I received via e-mail from Dr. Swisher’s assistant on Monday. I’ve been warned before about reading the actual medical reports (versus hearing it from a doctor), because sometimes the information in there can be scary and overwhelming, especially to someone who doesn’t understand all the medical terminology and it’s significance. That being said, from what I can tell, there’s some good news and some bad news. I kinda felt like I was riding an emotional rollercoaster when I was reading it—up on the top of the world one paragraph, then plummeting past rock bottom the next. Here’s the breakdown. Good news: The section of rib they removed was totally clean! Whatever the radiologists thought they saw on PET and CT scans, it wasn’t tumor activity. So, it turns out they removed a section of rib unnecessarily, but better safe than sorry. Bad news: Upon removal, the lung nodule was 100% viable, with 0% necrosis. In other words, the tumor was 100% alive—the chemo hadn’t killed it at all. Looks like the Gemcitabine/Docetaxel combination kept the tumor from growing, but wasn’t strong enough to kill it. Though we won’t know exactly what this information means to the doctors until my checkup mid-December, I can’t imagine it being positive in any way. I’m guessing it will probably change the way Dr. Benjamin approaches the post-op chemo plan, though again, there’s no way to know how until I see him in a couple of weeks. I quit trying to guess how he’ll handle things a long time ago. It’s bummer news, that’s for sure—I’ve had a couple of good cries over it already. But, we’ve come this far, we’re not giving up, and I’ve still got lots of fight left in me!

    It’s been a long day—the most active one I’ve had since surgery. I know it’s good for my recovery to get up from my nest on the couch and get out some, but I’m so exhausted I can barely type. I think I’ll have a cup of hot tea, take my last few vitamins for the day, then curl up with the cat and a mountain of fleece and call it a night. Sweet dreams.

    --Steph

  • Sleeeeeepy girl

    Posted by Stephanie 11:30pm CST from the apartment Houston, TX

    I can’t believe it’s been a whole week already since my surgery. My apologies for not getting on here sooner and writing a big update, I’ve just been soooo tired since surgery. I’d say I’m sleeping an average of 12-16 hours a day, which I’m sure my body needs as part of the recovery process. Just call me Rip van Stephanie.

    Where to begin…..well, let’s see, I know Sammy gave brief updates during and after surgery. I guess I’ll start by picking up where he left off when he had to leave the prep room before they wheeled me back to the O.R. At that point, I hadn’t been given any sedatives, and was completely alert and wide-awake. The anesthesiologists in the operating room were a couple of hams, joking that as soon as I scooted onto the cold slab of a table that they’d start my “happy hour cocktail” (aka the sedative) so that I’d be semi-conscious during the insertion of the epidural. They couldn’t knock me out completely because I had to be hunched over in a certain position, but I’ll tell ya, once that was achieved, I don’t remember another thing.

    I woke up in the PACU (post anesthesia recovery unit) after surgery, and the first thing I saw was Dr. Swisher leaning over my bed. It’s great that he feels driven to be there right away and let me know how things went, but what’s not great is that the first few minutes after waking up from anesthesia are the most disorienting and therefore the minutes when you remember the least of what is told to you. Here I am simply trying to figure out where I am and take inventory of what hurts the most, what I can and can’t move, where I have tubes sticking out, etc., and there’s the surgeon gabbing away—I felt like I was listening to the teacher in the Peanuts cartoons (wah wah wah wah). The best I could do was a) focus my eyes, b) not drool, and c) pretend that I was comprehending what was coming out of his mouth.

    Usually, a patient spends a couple of hours in the PACU, then is taken up to their individual room. I have a history of spending a little more time in there because of pain management issues, and this surgery was no exception. After I became slightly more coherent and visited briefly with Sammy, his mom, my mom and sister, I realized that whatever pain medication they had me on wasn’t cutting it. I was told during my anesthesia consult earlier in the week that they usually use either Dilaudid or Fentanyl in the epidural pump (the patient has a button that they can push to release that medication bit by bit. Well, I.V. Dilaudid makes me itch something awful (thought it’s great in pill form), and I.V. Fentanyl has never been that effective. The anesthesia team knew this going into surgery, but I woke up with Fentanyl in my pain pump, and sure enough, it wasn’t working. The epidural was covering the incision area okay, but my left lower rib cage area where the chest tubes (yes, 2 of them) were was outside of the coverage area, as was my left shoulder, which hurt from its twisted placement during surgery. The pain team tried a nerve block in my shoulder—it didn’t work—and wouldn’t listen when Sammy and I tried to tell them we had dealt with these same problems in the past and how we had previously resolved it. I know the members of the pain team are knowledgeable and trained to know what works best for most people, but this is me we’re talking about, queen of the abnormal, and at the start of the evening they were rather rude, arrogant and implied that I didn’t know what I was talking about and should just give it more time. When I was still in the PACU seven hours after my surgery ended and still in intractable pain, they finally agreed to take me off the Fentanyl.

    Once I got up to the room, a nice big corner room, I might add, they switched me over to a Morphine pump. Those of you who remember the Morphine-induced hallucinations that came with my liver surgery last fall might be wondering why they would do that, but have no fear—with a complete, functioning liver this time around, processing the Morphine would not be a problem. Though I had a few severe, teeth-chattering, whole body shaking pain flare-ups during the rest of my hospital stay last week, the morphine worked. I’ve said it before, I’ll say it again—if only they’d listen to me…..

    So anyway, the first couple days/nights of the hospital stay are a bit of a blur, since I did a lot of sleeping. Morphine makes it very tough for me to stay awake—I often fell asleep mid-sentence (when I was the one speaking), or even sadder, between the time when I scooped ice out of a cup and the time it got to my mouth……I spilled a lot of ice chips and nearly spilled hot tea on myself numerous times. No matter how much I slept, that side effect never went away until I was taken off the morphine and put on an oral pain medication regiment (luckily, that was done after just a couple of days). I was up and walking (more like shuffling/dragging myself along) the morning after surgery, and had to walk at least four times a day, or else the nurses got after me. The rest of time I was awake I spent doing breathing exercises or getting breathing treatments to prevent pneumonia. Exciting, eh?

    I must have been progressing well with everything (I certainly felt like I was doing better than my previous lung surgery), because the fluid coming out of my chest tubes was clearing up and had slowed down enough to come out on Saturday night, just two days after surgery. Those chest tubes were the source of so much of my pain and internal irritation, and once they were out, I felt sooo much better. The next morning my epidural was capped, I was switched to oral pain meds, and the catheter came out. THAT was the best part. I’ve talked about how much I despise those things. And, the catheter being out meant that I could put on real pajamas and not have to spend all my time in that hideous hospital gown. Quite a fashion statement, those gowns are….anyway, things were happening so quickly by Sunday afternoon that there was talk from the surgical team of possibly discharging me later that evening. I couldn’t imagine that actually happening—I had just been advanced to solid food from ice chips and clear liquids earlier that day, and we were still playing with the dosages on the oral pain meds to get just the right combination. As much as I would’ve loved to be out of there and recovering at the apartment, I knew I wasn’t quite ready to go, and thankfully, they realized that too. Monday morning, though, just 12 hours later, everything was still holding steady, and I was happily booted out of the hospital just four days after surgery. Pretty good, if I do say so myself.

    Having the apartment to go back to, instead of a tiny hotel room, has been a real blessing. I made my nest right away in the big comfy recliner chair, and that’s where I’ve been ever since. I’m even sleeping in the recliner, with mom parked on the couch right next to me so that she can help during the night with anything I need. I have to sleep propped up for a couple of weeks while fluid continues to drain from my lungs, and even though I could prop myself up in bed, undoubtedly I would roll over on my side, which would not be good right now. Moving around has become easier day by day, and the pain has gotten better bit by bit. I’m still taking lots of pain medication, which has caused some nausea, and other fun side effects like constipation, but hopefully I can start to lower the dosage soon. My days this week have been a lot like the ones in the hospital--walks up and down the hallways inside the apartment building, breathing/coughing exercises to help speed up the lung healing process, and lots of napping. Again, terribly exciting, I know. I haven’t gotten out of my pajamas since Monday (how awesome is that?), except to shower on Tuesday night. I wasn’t allowed to shower at all until my chest tubes had been out at least 48 hours, and I wanted to wait an extra day to gain a little strength. Mom put a shower seat in the tub, and there'ss a removable shower head, but even with those modifications in my favor I still couldn’t move enough to bathe myself, so she had to do it for me. Even though we’ve been going through this for four years now, and she’s had to help with things like this (and much worse) that whole time, I still find it disheartening and embarrassing that at the age of 30, I am being bathed by my mother.

    Overall, the surgery and recovery so far has gone well. Being semi-active and healthy (aside from the whole cancer thing) has helped me bounce back well. It’ll still be another week before I can do much of anything on my own, and several weeks after that before I’m back to myself, but so far so good. My appetite isn’t great, but I’m actually okay with that right now, since I need to lose a few pounds anyway. Don’t worry, I’m not starving myself—I’m just taking advantage of a decreased appetite to jump start things a little. :)

    I know Sammy mentioned in his post that the slice of rib they looked at under the microscope during surgery didn’t show any sign of disease, so we’re hoping when we get the path report back in the next few days, it will show the lung nodule as the only problem.

    So, I’m certain that since it’s been a week since I posted, and a busy, important week at that, I’ve somehow managed to forget something important. But, this is a pretty good synopsis……it’s taken me two and a half hours to compose, and I’m tired and ready for bed! Now that I’m starting to be on the computer more, I’ll do some more frequent posting. Till then, night all!

    --Steph

  • Free at last!!

    Posted by Stephanie 8:45pm CST from the apartment Houston, TX

    I’m free!! They kicked me out of the hospital this morning, and I’m back at the apartment, parked in a recliner, and moving as little as possible. It’s been a crazy few days in the hospital—good, bad and difficult all at the same time. I can’t wait to share all the stories, but right now, I’m desperate for sleep—it is all my body wants to do. I guess I can’t blame it, it has been rooted around in and needs lots of rest to heal. So, I’m off to bed, and tomorrow I’ll be back to fill everyone in. Sweet dreams.

    --Steph

  • Surgery Recap and Update

      

    Posted by Sammy

    Saturday Afternoon from MD Anderson

    Just for the record…

    This is us:

    LOD

    This is Cancer

    little wrestler

    Guess how the fight ends for cancer.

    So surgery #4 is done. Steph is recovering nicely. Were about 48 hrs out as I type this. She was up to walk 4 times yesterday and once or twice so far today. Pain is getting better. Its pretty low aside from some chest tube discomfort as she sits, worse when she walks but that all is nothing unexpected. She is on solid food now and we are hoping the chest tube comes out this afternoon which would mean that the catheter would follow suit tonight or tomorrow. (likely tomorrow since the epidural has to come out some time before the cath)

    Surgery day went smoothly overall, with the only exception being some pain issues overnight. We checked in and eventually went back to pre op which seemed to me, at least, to go faster than in the past. Once they wheeled her back I went and grabbed lunch with mom and settled in to hurry up and wait. The MD Anderson guest wireless network was giving me fits so it was hard to update but I got a few on so hopefully everyone wasn’t completely in the dark that day. If you’ve never been here, everything is top-notch…except the wireless network which is pretty terribad. So terribad in fact that we usually have to type these posts into a word document and paste them to the blog. But I guess if youre going to skimp somewhere in a cancer hospital that’d be where. Its really ok for most people, just if you’re full of geek-dom like me it’s irritating. Anyhoo we went back to see her after surgery and there was pain as usual but she was much more alert which was good. Ill let her describe the sensation of being woken up after surgery to your surgeon running down how everything went rapid-fire but im sure that’s quite the experience.

    We got settled into the room by around 10pm and set in for the night. The problem we ended up having was that we would doze off and she would not be able to push her pain medication button which was where the morphine was coming from. So the longer she slept the more pain she would have when she woke up. So we ended up getting the level of pain mediation delivered with each push upped a bit along with another shot to help with coverage. The lovely side effect of all the morphine which covered her pain was some nausea though she hasn’t to this point actually thrown up so really its been pretty controlled. We did manage to get some sleep, which is actually incredibly difficult in the hospital with all the people in and out and things like that.

    Yesterday she improved over the day and I took mom to the airport to fly home. I head back tomorrow and spend Monday getting things taken care of at home before I go back to school Tuesday. Steph should be discharged sometime this week and home by Thanksgiving. Really things have gone pretty smoothly. Going to Galveston the day before surgery was a nice thing. On the way back we saw some guy totally fail at many life tasks…among them being wealthy, use of a cell phone, driving and owning an expensive car by driving his rare $1 million Bugatti into a swamp.

    bugatti fail

    Bugatti FAIL

    I think its Karmic payback for driving a car who’s price tag could feed a small town for a year or two. Read the story here

    Lastly we got some VERY welcome positive news. Dr. Swisher believes the rib was free of any cancer. The lung nodule is the real deal and we will still have to do more chemo because of that. But they examined the rib and looked at a frozen section of it and found no evidence of tumor. So if that holds up in pathology, which it should, we are back only dealing with a single tumor and rib section was simply an old fracture, maybe from a previous surgery that re-fractured and showed up on the PET scan. We’ll keep everyone posted. Thanks for all the prayers and support. For those wanting to get into the fight along with us, ill be posting information on how you can get involved with the Sarcoma Foundation of America in the coming weeks and my Livestrong Challenge donation pages will go live in December.

    Sammy

  • surgery succesful

    all went well.

    lung nodule out

    happy news: OR exam of the rib found no tumor....yay!

    well go back and see her soon

     

    till then....

  • surgery update 2

    posted by sammy

    448 pm

    So Dr. Swisher came out a while ago. Steph made it through surgery just fine...no complications at all. Got the lung nodule and checked the lung...nothing else going on there.

    Some hopeful news though....they looked at a frozen section of the rib in the OR and saw no tumor in the rib....not just dead tumor, NO tumor, meaning that apparently there was never any there to begin with. This was great as it means we are likely dealing with just a lung nodule, which really makes the situation better if this holds up in pathology. We should get to go back and see her here in bit. Until then.....

  • Surgery update 1

    Posted by sammy

    230ish from MDACC

    Ok so the wireless network here is crapping on itself more than ususal. So i snagged a guest computer and will do xanga updates from here since my computer was told "YOU NO CAN HAZ INTERWEBZ!"

    Surgery is underway. Nothing unusual in the prep room. They took steph back a while ago so we should be due for an update within the hour and ill do another update as soon as I have more info. She was fine when i left and in good spirits. As far as surgeries go this should be on the mild side for us.